The reason for this is that if you blame others for problems in your life, this is really the same as saying "I can't do anything to change that problem; I can't sort it out because it's their fault - it's them that must do something about it, not me." This approach to things means that you will get stuck with some problems because you are always waiting for someone else to sort them out. And if you're thinking about changing that person's mind and getting them to behave a little more reasonably, you're probably best to forget it. It is very difficult to change other people - it is difficult to change yourself, but not nearly as difficult as changing someone else.

But why should you be taking responsibility for sorting out problems that may not be yours when they are not even caused by your drinking? You accept that heavy drinking has caused problems in your life. You are probably also aware that problems in your life have led you to drink more heavily, or to relapse to drinking in the past. If you fail to take personal responsibility for sorting out problems as best you can, then in time these problems will build up and place you at risk of a return to drinking as a means of escape. The only person you can really rely on to sort things out in the way that is in your best interests is you.

Why not empower yourself to change your life for the best?